Secret New Years Resolutions

Welcome to the new year 2012 AD!

There’s been lots of talk about this year, so it promises to be an interesting one for all of us human doings, and human beings.

I’ve asked several people if they have resolutions for the new year, and got no real responses other than “To make no resolutions” or “I don’t make resolutions”.

I have a feeling that they are secretly making some semi-resolutions in their head for the next year to come. We can’t help it, if we are true human beings, to have goals, can we? Isn’t just the act of telling yourself that you plan on improving some part of your physical or spiritual nature, a goal in itself? Who doesn’t want something to be better?

If you’re not growing, you’re dying. But the ones that will do something about it are another group. It’s just a dream if you want it, but it quickly turns into a goal if you plan on a strategy to get it!

What are the differences between resolutions and goals?

We have seen the acronym S.M.A.R.T. when talking about goals:

S pecific

M easurable

A ttainable

R ealistic

T imely

If goals have to meet this criteria, then what are your resolutions doing?

Wikipedia’s definitions for RESOLUTION are:

Legal: a written motion adopted by a deliberative body

New Years Resolution: a commitment that a person makes in the new year to one or more lasting personal goals, projects, or the reforming of a habit.

So if a person writes the ‘motion’, and adopts this motion as a law into herself, then doesn’t that make it a legal resolution? Make it a SMART resolution, and there you have it: A GOAL!

A goal is a dream that has a strategy, or plan attached to it!

How do goals work? Three ways:

Focus

Visualize

Believe

Are your dreams, just dreams, or are they goals? Are you afraid to take the leap to make the change? Maybe you have a dream to be able to play an instrument, get fit, make money, change a relationship’s status, or just to be a better person.

How big do you dare to dream?  How much are your dreams dampened down by your own stories of what is and isn’t possible?  How much do your behavioral patterns hold you in a space that prevents you from growing? Any thought in your mind can be ‘morphed’ into a dream, then a goal, if you make the decision to do so.

And speaking of decisions…

My definition of stress is when you have a big decision to make and you haven’t made it yet. In my experience, stress levels are high at that time more than any. One of the biggest causes of stress is resisting change, especially when it is inevitable.

This year, lets wake up from our dreams and add the plan!!!!

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